Sunday, February 15, 2009

Single sadness

I stood in church this morning, along with a few hundred individuals and families. We solemnly prayed the "Our Father", hands outstretched.

I've never felt so alone or about to burst into tears.

I was surrounded by families, most with two or three children under the age of ten. Each couple, every family held hands with each other, tiny toddler hands reaching up to grasp the fingers of a mother or father. And then there was me, a single, lonely, unhappy-at-the-moment gal.

I'll be 24 in less than two weeks. I've had ONE date my entire life, almost a year ago. I love my life, my job, most of the time. But there are moments, like this morning, when I just wish I had *someone*. Church is hard enough for me right now, and going alone just makes it worse. I long for a partner, someone to attend baseball games with, actually make and devour a dinner with, someone to bowl with and go to Sunday church with. Is it too much to ask?


  1. i am sorry that you feel so alone today, that is probably on e of the hardest things i think. sending you lots of hugs + prayers. hope things start looking brighter.

  2. Church isn't always the most "single friendly" place. At Thanksgiving, Hubby and I were burdened to throw a "singles party" - we invited about 15-20 singles over for dinner, and set up 3 tables for smaller conversations for everyone to get to know each other better. It was a huge hit with our single friends. Do you know a married couple who's willing to do the same for you/your church?

  3. It's absolutely NOT too much to ask.
    I feel for you.
    And I am also excited for you at what the future holds. What a lucky guy that must be waiting to meet YOU!!

    Keep in mind, too, that MANY of those parents have their moments of missing single life, or the ease of going to Mass w/o the little ones in their life BC (before children).

    Marriage is wonderful, but there is plenty to enjoy about the single life, too.
    Hang in there!

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  5. I'm sorry that you are feeling sad and lonely. I truly believe that in His time you will find the perfect partner! God already chose him out for will meet when you least expect it. I know it sounds "easy to say" but it is true. One day your prince will come! God knows the desires of your heart.

    Does your church have a singles group or a singles Bible study? Can you suggest one to your priest/Pastor/Rev?

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  7. Aw, I'm sorry that you're feeling sad. Just know that it'll work out, something great is just about to come along! And I agree with the other commenters - you should def check out single's groups at your church, every church I've ever attended always has get togethers and such!

  8. It's not too much to ask.

    And I can't count the number of times I have felt the same.

    I think the loneliest I've ever felt was when I was surrounded by families. "family communion" Sundays used to make me crazy. Hated them.

    I hadn't dated anyone seriously when I was 23 either. I was a "first date" gal. After the first date, never a phone call.
    The singles group at my church just wasn't happening (still isn't). And I spent many years being frustrated and finally concluded that I'd just be single forever.

    I no longer feel that way...I'm hoping and praying that you find your love soon.

  9. Bethany, it is NOT too much to ask. Hang in there. You will meet him when the time is right. You don't want to rush these things! :) Enjoy being you and finding out who you are. You are so young and have a lot of time. I am not trying to sound mean - I truly believe all of this.


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