I have had some very interesting conversations with my friends lately regarding being single. I'm 25 and have never dated anyone...I've gone on very few dates. It has nothing to do with not wanting to date/marry but rather just that I haven't met the right people to date nor do I have good ideas on how to meet people.
That said, I will be attending a wedding of one of my sisters soon- maybe even in this calendar year. With that comes pressure from people wanting to know why I'm not dating/married. Lots.of.pressure.
Anyway, these talks have been so interesting! Most of my friends from high school/college are married, but I've been able to find a few people around BC who I am blessed to call friends- and they are single too. Most of them are older than me by 10+ years so they come from all walks of life. Some have barely dated, like me. Some have been engaged but never made it to the altar. We're all different with various pasts/stories but we are single.
One of my friends shared with me a website called singleness.org. More interestingly, we read together an article from the website on God's perspective on singleness. I found it really interesting- some of my favorite points/sayings from that article and another I came across:
"Singleness is a total curse in my life. All of my friends have someone. My church is geared towards families. If you are not part of a couple you are not invited anywhere. You are a total misfit. I feel like a total freak. I HATE MY LIFE!!!!!!"
All I have to say to this is I completely sympathize.
An important thing that God shows us from His high tower is that marriage is only a thing of this earth and it is temporary. Marriage ends at the death of one of the marriage partners and does not continue in heaven.
Marriage should not be one's ultimate goal in life or it becomes an idol.
There is a danger with the multitude of matchmaking web sites, the multitude of books and programs on marriage and the family, and comments by friends and relatives implying one should get married, that results in our putting too much emphasis on marriage rather than on Jesus.