One of my friends posted on Facebook the following quote. She said that it is from a tv show or movie, but I don’t remember which.
“The direction of any relationship always seems to lie in the hands of one person. The one who cares less. What is the other person supposed to do? Move on or sit in wait for the other person to take action?”
She posted it a few days ago, and for some reason I still can’t get it out of my head. One of my former co-teachers came to mind. I haven’t seen her since we finished out the school year. I’ve talked to her on Facebook/texting a couple of times, but that’s it. I’ve tried to call her with no answer, left messages…perhaps not from her perspective, but from mine it’s as if she doesn’t care about me, doesn’t value or care about our friendship as much as I do.
There are other friends that come to mind too. Some I used to talk to every day. There are friends I used to live with in college or even after and now? I don’t even know where they are living, couldn’t have sent them a Christmas card if I wanted.
I suppose there is a reason for the song, “Make new friends, but keep the old. One in silver and the other gold.”
There are friends that we will have all of our lives, usually one or two but maybe more if we are especially blessed. There may be others who you rarely see or talk to, but when you do it’s as if you never left. And then…there are the friends who are in your life for a time, just a season. I think in a lot of ways, these friendships hurt the most, because a lot of times they end with no real reason…just time and space caught up with the day-to-day life mixed with more time until calling or writing doesn’t seem an option anymore. Eventually the friendship dissolves and is just a thing of the past.
It’s sad…but I guess that is how life is…what’s your take on the quote? (If you want to steal it and write a post on your own blog, go for it…just tell me so I can read your thoughts!)